Have you ever wondered what it was like to get married? So many details. And then there are relationships. So complicated. But still, it is something we all partake in and think about, probably more often then we dare to admit. There are often questions that we want to ask, but we really do not know who to ask them to, and even worse, who to trust to offer the correct and unbiased answers.
Have you ever wondered what it was like to get married? So many details. And then there are relationships. So complicated. But still, it is something we all partake in and think about, probably more often then we dare to admit. There are often questions that we want to ask, but we really do not know who to ask them to, and even worse, who to trust to offer the correct and unbiased answers. That’s where I come in. I’d like to introduce myself: My name is Marc Silverstone, principal of Equilibrium Events, and I am an event planner who can help to demystify (or at least offer some clarity) regarding the entire process of dating, engagement, marriage, and all of the planning (mental and physical) that goes along with it. On a monthly basis, I will be offering tips, tricks and ways to make it through the planning process, as well as answering questions from you, the readers. I look forward to hearing from you and never hesitate to ask me if you don’t know! Remember, it’s all good. Stop, think, and breathe.
Tips of the Trade
No matter where or when, weddings begin with the same key elements: Two people in love! I am proud to be at a time in my life where my experience, knowledge, and advice can encourage couples to create the single most important event in their lives. The goal of this column will be to offer tips and helpful hints to those planning their wedding, as well as take your questions in regards to wedding planning, special events, and special occasions. Additionally, I am excited to offer couples a place to announce their engagements and weddings, and special plans.
Weddings can be the most exciting day but also the most overwhelming; take a deep breath and let me help you. When planning your wedding I suggest starting a “Dream Box”. Most people think that the day you realize you want to get married, you need to decide on everything from date, colors, theme, location, etc. That is NOT the case. Take a minute. Stop, think, and remember to breathe.
This is where the dream box comes to life; take a deep breath and together with your significant other start collecting anything and everything that resembles what you’ve always “dreamed” your special day would be like. An example is a picture of a cake from a Cake Boss ad, a swatch of fabric from your favorite duvet, a special recipe…anything and everything. In a month if you look through this box, you will find that your “Dream Wedding” is right in front of you. Ahhh. Remember, keep breathing.
Marc, Can you give us some tips on how to check if a venue is gay friendly?
Hi Jon. What a great question – it is a very important item to confirm before booking. Though many of us live in communities where same sex couples are accepted and are considered part of the “norm”, not everyone does. The worst thing that you can do is plan your dream day and find out that it is in a space where the management or staff is not accepting. What a nightmare! This is one of the many advantages to hiring a wedding planner/ event company. Their job is to do your homework for you. They will have the answers to all of the questions you may have, know what is feasible and what will not work. If you are planning the event yourself, I suggest coming right out and asking when you are looking at venues. You will be able to tell right away from the reaction you receive. If you do not get the “warm fuzzies” from the person you are chatting with, I suggest looking for an alternative.
Marc, we are planning a small reception and wanted to know if a cash bar is acceptable at a wedding?
Frank, The short answer to your question is “no”. Many people are on budgets and finances are tight, however your guests are there to share in your celebration. They’ve already had to incur expenses such as clothing, gifts, out-of-towners need hotel, transportation, food, etc. to join you. If you are not in a position to provide an open bar -which is understandable – I highly suggest doing a single signature drink, a wine bar, or skipping alcohol all together! It Is better to forgo alcohol then to ask your guests to reach into their own wallets to buy drinks. Hate to be like this, but in all honesty – tacky!
You can send your questions to Mark Silverstone at [email protected]